Resources | BDSM Recommendations


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Collar Factory

Custom collars, cuffs, belts, and everything to fulfill your fantasies of control and submission. Useful site, especially the section on details for newcomers to the BDSM scene.
ChicoMunch A good site for some information on subspace, after care, and many other subjects.
Edukink Library

Plenty of useful information if you are interested in the scene and how to do certain things.

A Submissives Initiative Perhaps one of the best sites I have found information on. Not just for submissives.
The Kinky Feminists Page run by Beverly on Facebook
BDSM Education Group Closed Facebook group for questions and answers run by Beverly.

I saved a really well done Limit List before the website it came from was taken down. I've posted it here for personal use:

Checklist AKA Limit List


Print Resources (Available on Amazon at time of Publication)


Ethical Slut, The: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures. Second Edition. Janet W. Hardy.


Loving Dominant, The (New and Improved). John Warren, Libby Warren.


New Bottoming Book, The. Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy.


New Topping Book, The. Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy.


Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. Tristan Taormino.


Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism. Paperback – 1995. Philip Miller, Molly Devon.


Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, The. 2002. Midori, Craig Morey (Photographer).


SM 101: A Realistic Introduction 2nd Edition. Jay Wiseman.


The Toybag Guide to:

Age Play. Lee Harrington

Basic Rope Bondage. Jay Wiseman.

Canes and Caning. Janet W. Hardy.

Chastity Play. Mistress Simone.

Clips and Clamps. Jack Rinella.

Dungeon Emergencies and Supplies. Jay Wiseman.

Erotic Knifeplay. Miranda Austin and Sam Atwood.

Foot And Shoe Worship. Midori.

High-Tech Toys. John Warren.

Hot Wax and Temperature Play. Spectrum.

Medical Play. Tempest,

Parties & Events. Lucullus.

Playing With Taboo. Mollena Williams.


When Someone You Love Is Kinky. Dossie Easton.


Online Resources (Online and Accessible at time of Publication)


BDSM Learning Center
A series of articles about the basics of BDSM including various views on dominance and submission, hints and tips for novices, safety information, opinions about predators, abuse, contracts, etc. Many of these articles are three to five years old, however they still contain good and relevant information.


Blogs to Follow: Dominants
A listing from Dominant Guide of various blogs to follow for Dominants.


Chico Munch
“This website is a social-community resource for people who share an interest in the safe practice of BDSM, and a source of information about things related to BDSM.”


Dom Butch
“This is the website of an old school leatherdyke Master.  There is nothing titillating on this website.  It's simply the facts, history and views I was taught by my Mentor and what I try to live by.  It's not the truth handed down by the Gods of Leather.”
“Sex is a bit like a secret society; everyone's doing it, it's just that no one talks about it. Kinkly's mission is to start that conversation, answer your questions and help you discover new and exciting things about sex, love and your body. We guarantee it'll be illuminating, enlightening, fun ... and a little kinky. And that's OK with us.
No innuendos, no judgments and no apologies, just fearless, straight-up talk about sex.”


Kink Abuse
“’s focus is primarily for the BDSM community. However we hope to offer educational resources for every community, straight , LGBTQ or kinky, Anywhere there are questions about abuse, we hope to be able to provide some help in getting those questions answered.  As we are located in Utah some of the resources listed are local.  However, we have tried to provide general numbers and links to those who live outside of Utah.” BDSM Primer/Definitions
A neat, concise listing of BDSM terms and definitions.


A Submissive’s Initiative
“A Submissive’s Initiative™ is an educational organization that offers information about several topics covering sexual education, LGBTQIA+ issues and mental health with a focus on alternative lifestyles, including BDSM. We emphasizes safety, consent and informed decision making along with advice to help partners discover a healthy and fulfilling relationship.”


Submissive Guide
“Welcome to The Submissive Guide — a blog look at mentoring, self-taught training and BDSM exploration.”


Where to Buy (Online and Accessible at time of Publication)


Bad Dragon Toys
“What's your fantasy? Bad Dragon sells a variety of sex toys, dildos, masturbators, and adult accessories based on fantastic creatures!”


Collar Factory
“At the Collar Factory, you can custom-design your very own leather or rubber collar in just five steps.”


Doc Johnson
A well-known store to buy high quality sex toys and products.


The Kink Factory
Kinky products for you to purchase.




Fifty Shades of Grey


So we all know that Fifty Shades of Grey is in the media. Here is why this our novel is nothing like it, and why Fifty Shades is NOT true to the BDSM lifestyle.

Fifty Shades of Grey is BAD and an inaccurate reflection of BDSM.

The authors could go on for volumes about why, however, there are plenty others who have said what we'd say, so instead we'll provide links.

Please note: These are not verified by the authors, and you are viewing them at your own risk.


Six Myths
Six myths about BDSM spread by Fifty Shades of Grey

Why Fifty Shades is not good BDSM
Fifty Shades Leaves out the joy of BDSM
Why I hate Fifty Shades
Talks about how the novels equate BDSM with abuse.
What's Wrong with Fifty Shades?
Talks about where it is wrong in respect to the BDSM lifestyle.






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